How to Chat in Bumble
If you’re new to Bumble, some things may seem confusing. You’ve swiped right on someone, and then they’ve swiped right on you. You then get a notification that you have a new match! Exciting, right? But what are you supposed to do next?
Everything depends on whether you’re a woman or a man. Unlike other dating apps, Bumble has slightly different rules: only women can start a conversation. In this article, we’ll explain everything about how to chat on Bumble.
Guide for Women
If you’re tired of receiving inappropriate messages on dating apps, Bumble is the safe place you were looking for! Only women have First Move privilege, which means only you can initiate a conversation after a match. So, even if you’ve matched with someone, you still have some time to decide whether you want to chat with them.
However, don’t wait too long, as you have only 24 hours to start the conversation! After that, your First Move privilege will expire, and you won’t be able to see the person you matched with. This is one of the Bumble’s strategies to encourage you to get to know someone, instead of matching with multiple people every day and never chatting with them.
If you were really busy that day, there’s a way to extend your match. Both you and the other person can extend the time limit, and ask Bumble for an additional 24 hours. However, be careful because you can extend only one match a day. If you don’t message them in the following 24 hours, the match will be lost forever.
Best Conversation Starters
Many Bumble users complain that ladies just send them “Hey” or something like that, and expect them to keep the conversation going. As you know, communication is a two-way street, and you both have to put some effort into it.
We suggest that you take a look at their bio. You may find something interesting that will help you start the chat. Check what interests you have in common and whether you have a similar hobby. Moreover, pay attention to what you see in his photos.
If he has a dog – that’s perfect! You can start the chat by saying his dog looks cute or asking something about dogs. If he’s been to Paris, ask him what it was like and which places he would recommend. Same if he plays some sport. Men like to talk about sport, and that could be an excellent ice-breaker.
Moreover, Bumble has introduced Conversation Starters. When you open the chat, you can choose from many pre-made questions, such as: What’s the best movie you’ve ever seen? They’re perfect for ladies unused to making the first move.
Guide for Men
You’ve got a notification that you have a new match. Great! But what can you do now? Unfortunately, not much. Like we said, only women can start the chat. Therefore, you have to wait until the other person sends you a message.
As you know, ladies have 24 hours to send you the first message. If you’ve matched with a girl you like and she hasn’t sent you anything yet, you can extend the time limit and give her an additional 24 hours. However, you can do this only once a day so think twice about which chat you’re going to extend.
You may think this is unfair, but let’s put things into context. Thanks to its innovative rules, Bumble is one of the most successful dating apps around. And although you can’t start a conversation with every woman you like, think about it this way: you’ll get to talk only to girls who are really interested in you.
Bumble believes that it’s better to have a quality conversation with one person than to start multiple chats with women who may not be interested at all. In fact, this feature can save you a lot of time.
What Can Men Do?
Although it seems women are in charge of everything on Bumble, that’s not entirely true. There are many things you can do to improve your chances of meeting someone special.
Your bio is the first thing women see, so try and make it as good as possible. We don’t mean you should exaggerate and pretend you’re someone you’re not. However, try to make it original and mention things they could use as a conversation starter – books, pets, travel, etc.
Once when a woman sends you a message, try your best to keep the conversation going. If she’s not very talkative, she may be shy. But she did make the first move, which indicates she wants to chat with you, only she may not know what to write. Now it’s up to you to help her, be polite, and ask additional questions.
A couple of years ago, Bumble introduced a BFF mode where you can meet people of the same gender. Now, you may wonder who has a First Move privilege if both are women or men. In BFF mode, both users can start a conversation, which is fantastic.
However, bear in mind that the 24-hour limit applies here as well. If neither of you sends a message within 24 hours from matching, the match will expire. Of course, you can use your Daily Extend feature to extend it for another 24 hours.
On dating apps, people often try to pretend they’re flawless. You don’t have to do that, as it’s simply not natural. If we could give you only one piece of advice, we’d advise you to be yourself. That way, you can meet people who’ll like you for who you really are.
Have you already tried Bumble? Did you like it? Have you met anyone interesting? Let us know in the comments section below.