How To Extend Matches in Bumble
Extending matches in Bumble is something you either do all the time or don’t do at all depending on your point of view. Some users consider it an act of desperation that rarely, if ever, results in a conversation. Others view it as a Hail Mary thrown into the ring as there is nothing to lose. While others just view it as giving matches enough time to respond.
Regardless, knowing how to extend matches in Bumble is something every user needs to know how to do.
Bumble is different to other dating apps and it either works for you or against you. With women having all the power and men not being able to initiate contact, the dynamic has completely changed. Men have to seriously up their game with their profile and images and women have to worry less about meeting those kinds of guys that put them off other dating apps. Bumble has become more popular with women, which has inspired it to become more popular with men. Bumble and Tinder are now serious rivals for the honor of being the most popular dating app.
If you both swipe right and match in dating mode, the woman has only 24 hours to initiate contact otherwise that match expires. If that 24-hour time limit goes by without the woman initiating communication then you and your match go back into the mix for each other and will reappear in their queue at some point. Depending on where you live, that could be days, weeks or months.
If you do find someone you like but don’t have the time to send a message, it’s possible for the time limit on sending the first message to be extended. Unlike other dating apps where a man or a woman can send the first message after a match is made, in Bumble, only a woman can send the first message, whereas men can only extend the match in hopes that the woman will send a first message later on.
Extending matches in Bumble
If you’re a free user of Bumble, you can extend one match per day. If you use Bumble Boost, you can extend matches more often.
If you want to extend your match with someone, just open the expiring match profile and select ‘Extend This Match’. You will get a further 24 hours within which to initiate a conversation or have one initiated for you.
Once the extension has expired you cannot extend it further. Even Bumble Boost users cannot extend their matches further than the 48-hour limit. Once expired, the profile will go back into the pool and will likely appear again at some point in the future. Exactly when depends on how many Bumble users are in your area that are a potential match for you at a given time.
Does extending matches in Bumble work?
As with all elements of dating, there is a lot of psychology at work when it comes to matching. The question of whether it’s a good idea to extend a match or not depends on you, the person you matched with and how you view the whole dating scene.
Here are five views on extending matches that I collected while researching a number of pieces on Bumble. Which do you identify with the most?
- If you like someone, extending is just another opportunity to say hi. If you were in real life, you would do whatever necessary to get that initial greeting. Even if it didn’t go well, you would know. So there is nothing wrong with extending if you like someone.
- Extending comes across as a little desperate. That is especially true if you’re a guy. If you match with a girl and she genuinely likes what she sees she will chat, if only to say hi. Extending on a girl seems a little desperate and isn’t likely to be received any better than the initial match.
- Sometimes people are just busy. A match may come up and I’m on the bus or waiting for a meeting to start. I get a match and then the meeting starts or I arrive at my destination. The day runs away with me and before I know it, the next day is here and it begins again. Sometimes, 24 hours is just not long enough so extending a match is useful.
- It just takes a second to chat and say ‘Hi, how you doin’. If someone hasn’t made at least that effort, why are they on Bumble? If they cannot spend a second setting a marker with even the simplest chat, why match with people at all? People shouldn’t need extensions. We check our phones all the time and it’s not like you have to put together a thesis on why you like them. It’s just a simple hello.
- Some girls only ever talk to guys who extend on them as they need the ego boost. They know they are hot and expect men to work harder for it. If she is hot enough to get lots of matches, she is hot enough to wait for the extensions where she can filter them even further for the one who will buy her the most dinners or drinks.
Extending matches in Bumble is simple once you know how and it’s a core feature of Bumble that you should know how to use. The mechanics of extending may be straightforward but the psychology behind it is as much of a challenge as the rest of online dating. Wherever you sit on extending, or not, there is no doubt that a little effort pays off. Just what forms that effort takes is entirely up to you!
Do you have some thoughts on when it’s a good idea to extend a match in Bumble? If so, please leave a comment below.