How to Find Out Who Super Liked You on Tinder
Tinder has grown into both the most popular and the most talked-about mobile dating app in the world. The app has completely revolutionized the dating scene and has made the act of swiping right to match or left to reject a staple of dating culture. Tinder’s model, in which individual users match if they swipe right on one another, guarantees at least a moderate amount of initial interest at every first date. Tinder has become popular with users of all ages. Though younger singles seem to make up a majority of the site’s demographic, every age group finds representation and there are plenty of happy Tinder users in their 40s and 50s.
What Are Super Likes?
Tinder changed up the game back in 2015, however, when they introduced the concept of the Super Like, which allows users to both “like” someone and to send a notification of their like to the match of their choice. Normally matches happen when the second person to arrive on the site swipes right on someone who already swiped right on them, and the match comes as something of a surprise to both of them. With a Super Like, however, the Super Liked person gets the pleasure of anticipation, of deciding whether to reciprocate a match that he or she knows is already reciprocated. Adding to the excitement, regular Tinder users are only allotted one Super Like per day; Tinder Plus subcribers get five, and any user can buy extra Super Likes à la carte through the app’s own store interface.
If you’re new to Tinder, Super Likes can seem really confusing or overwhelming. Even trying to find out who has or hasn’t Super Liked you may seem confusing if you’re unsure of how the service works. There’s good news, though; it’s really easy to use Super Likes. The key question is how to find out who Super Liked you on Tinder.
Super Likes are performed one of two ways. While viewing profiles, users typically swipe left or right. To use the third option, the Super Like, the user performs a swipe up, or taps on the star icon at the bottom of the screen. While the swipe-up gesture is easy enough, it can often cause trouble on certain phones where a swipe-up gesture performs other actions in other contexts, including opening Control Center on iOS, often leading to accidental Super Likes.
Tinder users tend to see these Super Likes in one of two ways. In one way, sending a Super Like to a user practically guarantees the other user will see your profile, since they’ll receive a notification you’ve Super Liked them and there is nobody in this world so self-confident that they aren’t going to at least go see who Super Liked them. Unfortunately, it’s also easy to see Super Likes in a negative light. Some users see Super Liking as a needy, overblown way to get someone’s attention. It can come off as unappealing or unattractive, especially if you follow a Super Like with some form of harassment or a bland conversation, or if it becomes clear that you aren’t super attracted to the person you Super Liked and are just playing an (expensive) numbers game.
How Do I See Who Super Liked Me?
If you have notifications disabled, it doesn’t mean you’re left out of the Super Like game entirely—it just means you have to work a little harder to see who did or didn’t Super Like you. When you swipe through the app, a user who Super Liked you will typically appear near the top of your stack of people, making it easier to see who has or hasn’t sent you a Super Like. A blue border will still appear around their profile, and if you swipe right on their profile, you’ll become immediate matches and a conversation will begin. If you swipe left, it’s the same as swiping away anyone else—there’s no repercussions to swiping left on a profile that Super Liked you.
If you’re the one doing the Super Liking, remember to try to be selective. You can’t control how some users will see your Super Likes, and unfortunately, some might be turned off by the very thought of a Super Like. That’s no one’s fault, including your own, so don’t stress too much if a Super Like falls through. Try to be yourself, be open to communication, and be honest—you’ll be surprised how often your matches take to that alone.
Check Your Feed
In December 2017, Tinder rolled out a major new feature to a select group of beta testers called Feed, a social network of sorts for those who thrive on Tinder. The Feed didn’t reach a wider audience until it rolled out to all Tinder users in March of 2018. The Feed allows you to view updates from all your mutual matches on the service, no matter when you matched with them. Anyone you match with automatically appears in your Feed, with posts including their favorite songs, photo updates, and more.
Once you’ve accepted the Super Like in your queue (as mentioned above), you can dive into the Feed to truly get to know the person that Super Liked you. What you see is controlled by the other person; for example, seeing their recent activity on Spotify depends on them plugging their Spotify account into Tinder. And of course, privacy settings can easily be controlled within the app to change what your matches see in your own personal feed.
Basically, after you’ve matched with the person who Super Liked you, using the Feed as a way to get to know the person is the best way to follow-up on a Super Like. After that, you could use this book on Tinder For Experts to up your game and get a good convo going.
I Can’t Find the Person Who Super Liked Me? Did I Do Something Wrong?
Well, to answer the second part of that question first—no, you didn’t do anything wrong. Super Likes do appear around the top of your swiping pile when you’re using the app, and you do get notified when you’ve been Super Liked to begin with. Don’t swipe too fast, or you’ll accidentally swipe past the actual Super Like, and there’s no way to get that back. As far as wondering where the Super Like went if you can’t find it after hours of swiping, that’s an easy mystery to solve.
Because Super Likes are activated by swiping up on the screen, it’s really easy to accidentally Super Like someone. We mentioned above that the gesture for Control Center on iOS is activated by swiping up from the bottom of the screen, leading to lots of accidental swipes as users try to use the shortcut. On some devices, including the iPhone X, on-screen gestures to swipe up from the bottom of the display to go home mean that accidental Super Likes are even more likely. If you’re worried about sending a Super Like when you didn’t mean to, we suggest using the on-screen buttons inside of Tinder in order to avoid communicating the wrong message towards someone.
If you’re a Tinder Plus or Tinder Gold (more on that below) subscriber, you can retract likes and Super Likes, making it easy to fix the mistake made from an accidental swipe or tap on your display. It’s unfortunate that you have to pay for a service designed to allow you to meet people who liked or Super Liked your profile, but that’s how Tinder makes their money.
Tinder Gold Subscriptions
While using the swipe method above makes it really easy to figure out who Super Liked you, there’s now a way to find out who liked and Super Liked you without having to rely on swiping through your list of matches. Tinder Gold is a brand new add-on for Tinder Plus members, or a new subscription service for free members. For an additional $4.99 on top of a Tinder Plus membership (for most users, this will amount to about $14.99 per month), you’ll gain access to all of the Tinder Plus perks—Passport, Rewind, Unlimited Likes, five Super Likes per day, one Boost per month, and more profile controls—in addition to Gold-exclusives like the new Likes You feature.
This allows you to see a full list of everyone who has liked and Super Liked you, making it easy to browse the full list without having to endlessly swipe through your cards. Whether or not it’s worth the monthly subscription is up to you—and frankly, up to your bank account—but it is an option for those who are really looking to make Tinder effective in their romantic pursuits.
Super Likes aren’t for everyone. Some users might find them to be a bit too much of a commitment, while other users might find them to be pure in intention. Whether or not you decide to use Super Likes yourself, it’s near guaranteed you’ll be received a few Super Likes yourself while using the app day in and day out. Super Likes might seem like a silly idea, but that couldn’t be farther from the truth. They do a great job in showing your interest to another individual on the site, raising your profile out of the sea of other matches and making it possible to see you in a different light than everyone else.
While we recommend using them sparingly, there’s no reason truly not to use a Super Like. And the easiest way to make sure you can see who’s sending you Super Likes is simple—head into Settings within the app and ensure your notifications are enabled. Super Liking might seem complicated, but like everything else in Tinder, once you get used to the process, you’ll love using the app and all the included features.